Better Than Gold

I am someone who has always tried to follow the Golden Rule. “Do unto as you would have them do unto you.” Put more simply, treat others as you want to be treated. Then I had a mind shift.

I was reading 11 secrets of Irresistable People and Dr. Travis Bradberry nailed it on the head. A flaw in the rule. He said this rule assumes other people want to be treated like you do. Sure, we all want to be treated with respect and love but HOW we want these types of actions to be demonstrated vastly differs.

This concept is at the root of what The 5 Love Languages describes. There are different ways we can show love. We often give love to others the way we want love received, but that is where the problem lies. Everyone else doesn’t speak “the same love language.” So, what can we do? We can ask. Asking people what they need is sometimes the best solution.

I often call my mom in a panic when something is going wrong. She will tell me a few things but I realize it’s not what I am looking for and I get even more upset. Does this happen to you? It’s not my mother’s fault. She doesn’t know how to help because I haven’t instructed her how.

We are all individuals, our needs are different which means our responses and interactions with the people around us should follow Dr. Bradberry’s Platinum Rule - treat others as they would like to be treated.

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